The Process of Purging: Claiming Truth, Seeking Balance
There are times in life when the biggest “sort and purge” doesn’t happen in a closet or garage—it happens during the daily doings of your life’s circumstances. As I prepare for another next chapter in my divorce journey, I find myself not just reviewing documents and revisiting events—I’m revisiting everything. Every word that was twisted. Every agreement that was broken. Every piece of truth I silently kept to myself.
But, now, I’m done keeping the peace at the cost of my own. This isn’t about blame or bitterness. It’s about bravery. It’s about truth-telling. And most of all, it’s about finding my balance in brutal honesty and identifying those things for movement forward.
Recognizing Truth-Telling as a Sacred Purge
Letting go isn’t just about clearing junk and lightening your home—it’s about freeing your heart. Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is tell the truth, even if your voice shakes. Even if others roll their eyes. Because the real weight isn’t in the couch you donated—it’s in the unspoken story you’ve been carrying for years. In the grief. The gaslighting. The guilt that was never yours to hold.
When we begin to clear space—physically or emotionally—we open ourselves to something much greater than order. We create the conditions for balance. For clarity. For a new kind of freedom.
My Story, My Stand
As someone who has dedicated a lifetime to helping others sort, purge, and reimagine their environments, I know the courage it takes to face what you’ve avoided or suppressed and not truly “let go of”.. To hold something in your hands and ask, “Does this still belong to me?” “Why do I still have this?”
That’s exactly what I’m doing now. In this next phase of an unexpected legal battle with my ex-spouse, every detail of my story is coming forward—the purpose and intent is not to prove my worth, but to reclaim my voice. This is the most vulnerable work I’ve ever done. But it’s also the most aligned. Because I know: The truth is sacred. And, what is that saying ?, “the truth always prevails”.
These kinds of circumstances require “sorting” as a spiritual practice. And purging as an act of power.
What I’ve Learned
You can be misunderstood and still be grounded in truth.
You can feel afraid and still move forward.
You can lose everything and still redesign your life.
The process of Active ReDesign is never just about things. It’s about transitions, truth, and transformation. Whether in your home or your heart—clearing space is a radical act of self-respect. If you’re navigating a major life transition—divorce, estrangement, grief, or overwhelm—please know: You are not alone. And you don’t have to do it in silence.
I’m here to walk beside you. If you’re ready to begin your own sacred purge, reach out. Let’s sort through what’s weighing you down—so you can rise. With heart,
Kathryn Young
Founder, Active ReDesign
Compassionate Transition Support | Heart-Centered Organizing